The pie I thought I could never have again

When I was a child I LOVED lemon Meringue pie!  My favorite part was the whole pie..ha ha.  My favorite part was the meringue.  It is traditionally made with egg whites so as vegan dish this is out of the question.

Miracles never cease and a few weeks ago my mother found the coolest thing ever - meringue made out of the liquid found in the can of chickpeas.  It is called aquafaba.  I was so intrigued that I had to make the meringue.

Since this is my first time making a vegan meringue pie I had to get help from a few more well-versed chefs.  I ended up combining 2 different recipes to make this pie.  It was so fun!

Some of the sweetest moments of my life are cooking and baking healthy recipes.  I love good food and I love finding great recipes.

I have including the links to the recipes in case you want to try it!

To Your One Sweet LIfe,

Dr. Dae

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The Filling

To make the filling I used Vegan Lemon Meringue Pie from Food.com.  It is made with silken tofu so there is protein to help cut the sugar.  I have actually reduced the amount of sugar and it still tasted so good and tangy!

Once the mixture was done I poured it into the crust and let it set for overnight.  The next day I added the meringue before serving.

For the crust

I used a store bought gluten-free graham cracker crust.

 

For the Meringue

  • liquid brine from the can of chickpea brine (aquafaba)
  • 1/2 cup vegan cane sugar
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1 teaspoon of cream of tartar

Place the brine vanilla and cream of tartar in the bowl of a standing mixer and start the mixer. 

Slowly add the sugar in a standing mixer and mix for 10 -15 minutes until stiff peaks appear.

Once it was done I gently covered the filling and then I put it in the oven on broil for about 2-4 minutes until everything was done!   Very simple super good!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

 

 

Letting Go Creates Space for More

Running a small business is an amazing feat.  I have been doing it for 15 years.  For most of that I time I have been doing it alone with no help or support. I’m here to tell you that it is not working doing it alone.  I have been exhausted and overwhelmed for most of my business life.  I have not been able to grow my practice because I am the self-limiting component.   I am the doctor, lecturer, administrator, social media guru, writer, bookkeeper, chef, driver, chief creator, just to name a few of the hats that I wear!

Intellectually, I know that this model is a disaster.  Still, I run this by myself because I don't feel like I have the cash flow to pay for help.  I’m afraid to hire someone and not be able to pay them for their services.  It has happened before and it is an extremely shameful experience to look your employee in the eyes and tell them you don’t have the money to pay them.

However, the time has come. I have to let go of the fear because it is exhausting me and holding me back.  I have to be brave and courageous and get some help.

Besides, my body and mind are pushing back saying you better get some help or we are going to quit on you!

Today’s sweet moment is to surrender and trust that I will get the help I need and that the money will come to me and to flow through me to them for their services.

Pushing past your fear is key to creating new success.  What fear are you pushing through?

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: Surrender and trust that you will get the help you need.

 

 

Simple Acts can Lead to Sweet Moments

Sometimes the sweetest moments are the most simple.  As I mentioned yesterday, I was feeling wore down and imposed mandatory self-care.  This morning I still need self-care.  I need to be gentle with myself and not go full throttle today either.

So I started this morning with a hot cup of magic mineral broth.  It is a vegetarian broth created my by friend, Chef Rebecca Katz, while she was cooking for cancer patients.  It is a warming nutrient-rich broth that makes you feel healthier with each sip. It was so enjoyable to sit in the warmth and quiet of the bed and sip this loving soup first thing in the morning.  It is definitely the sweet spot of my day.

Sometimes the simplest acts can be the sweetest.  Today I decided not to rush out of bed to start my day. Instead, I decided to savor the opening moments of my day, to strengthen myself and give myself permission to slowly and mindfully begin the day.

How can you introduce a sweet moment into your day?  It will make all the difference in how you feel and how you treat others.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  A simple sweet moment makes all the difference in how you feel and how you treat others.

Self-Care is a Constant Process

Today is the 3rd day of an amazing conference.  I am exhausted. It has been 13-hour days. It has been intense and full of important information.  I am feeling torn about whether to get up and go for another 13-hour day or stay home and rest.  I don’t want to miss a moment and I want to be in the energy of that room.

I take a few moments to be honest about my energy level, which is low.  I think about my options which are stay and live-stream the conference on my computer or pop up and rush down to the conference and find a good seat.

I choose self-care and stay home.  It is the best alternative in light of my energy level.  It seems like such an easy choice but for a moment I feel like I am being weak by not being in that conference room.

As it turns out, I sleep during the breaks and during lunch as I live-stream.  I needed to stay home!  I am able to be more present during the live stream because I stayed home.

As I learn over and over again, self-care is a daily practice.  Self-care can be massages and hot bath.  But what I am learning is that self-care is so much more basic. It is protecting my energy level, getting rest when I need it, feeding myself during the day, laughing and playing and taking quiet time.

The more I pay attention to my needs in each moment, the sweeter my life becomes.  Today it was attending the conference from home.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: As I learn over and over again, self-care is a daily practice.  The more I pay attention to my needs in each moment, the sweeter my life becomes.

 

Dream On

There is something about incredible about the power of believing in a dream.  This evening we got the chance to watch a documentary called Dream On.  It examines people who live in cities all around this country to see if they have achieved the American Dream.  What struck me in the movie is that everyone has a different perspective on what is their American Dream.  But all shared the same hope to have their dreams come true.

Hope is necessary for dreams to survive.  Hope is what keeps me excited for the future.  Watching the movie and being at the conference is creating hope for me personally, professionally and politically.  Hope is a sweet emotion and created such a sweet night.

What keeps hope alive for you?

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  Hope is necessary for dreams to survive. 

Bringing Love into Politics

I’m writing this through tears today.

I have been crying internally and externally all day.  I am sitting at a conference focused teaching people how to bring social consciousness to politics in America.

Anyone that knows me, knows that even though I grew up in DC, I don’t have a mind for politics.  I have always avoided conversations about politics.  Yet in the days since the election, I have found myself compelled to learn more about what are the origins of problems that have divided this country and what can I do to support the healing process.

Today during this conference, I am learning about environmental issues, about Standing Rock, fracking, inequities for women, black lives matter, money in the media, immigration bands and so much more.  My head is spinning from all the information pouring into my brain.

I am crying because each of the speakers is so passionate about their cause.  They are showing such compassion and love for what they do.  They are teaching us conviction about how to change the world with knowledge and persistence.  It is so beautiful, it touches my heart and I am crying.  It is daunting how much work we have to do, so I am crying.

It is so sweet to be in a ballroom full of women who have the heart to change the world through compassion, commitment, and love.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: so sweet to be in a room full of women who have the heart to change the world through compassion, commitment, and love.

Widening my Perspective on American History

When I was a child I used to look forward to Black History month because it was a time where I felt important.  I felt like through Black history, I learned about the history of people that were like me.  It felt so good.

4 months ago the African-American Museum of History and Culture opened and my perspective on Black history totally changed. Going into that massive museum and seeing all the ways that black people shaped this country on every level changed me!  I have been there 3 times in the last 4 months, which is quite a feat since you have to get tickets 3 months in advance just to get in the place!

For the first time, I really understood that every single piece of black history is truly American history.  That creates such a pride and joy in me.  It filled a hole in me that I didn't know existed. I feel fully American.  It somehow gives me the esteem and confidence to move around in the world in bigger and bolder ways.

Esteem is a wonderful quality it makes anything possible.  It can come from so many different sources: from knowing your past, from embracing your future, or from using your gifts and talents to help others.

Knowing that others who look like me have achieved amazing things gives me hope for my own life. My sweet spot for today is letting the power of my history wash over me and give me the esteem to reach for my dreams. 

So this black history month feels even more satisfying than ever before.  In a time when people of color are being called all type of negative names I am so proud to be black and I so proud to be an American.

Jesse Williams said, “Just Because We Are Magic Does Not Mean We Are Not Real!” Here is what I know “We are Magic and We are real!”

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  Letting the power of my history wash over me and give me the esteem to reach for my dreams. 

 

 

Dating Night with Myself

Many years ago, I was feeling really stuck in my business and personal life. I needed to do something to shake up the way I was thinking. A friend introduced me to a course called “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron. It is a safe-paced course that invites you to take a look at what brings you joy by remembering your personal creativity.

It is a wonderful course. I thoroughly enjoyed it and I have taken it more than once over the years. One of my favorite activities is my weekly dates with myself.  The requirements of the date are to do something that you enjoy.  Do it by yourself. Do it for at least 20 minutes.

The first time I took the course I decided to take myself on dates to different places around the city every week.  It was wonderful to explore the city where I grew up new ways.  I found so many free and cool spots that I have come to cherish.

More importantly, I learned to treat myself to a date for fun, especially when I have an intense time.

Today I decided to take a break and take myself out on a date.  I turned off my computer and my brain and took myself out for tea.  What a glorious hour!

The sweet moment is letting all the worries of my world go (even just for an hour) and come back to myself.  It is a glorious gift.

Have you dated yourself lately? How did it go?

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: A sweet moment is letting all the worries of the world go (even just for an hour) and coming back to yourself.  It is a glorious gift.

 

Self-care to the Rescue

For the last several weeks I have been extremely busy getting back into my work routine. I've also been preparing to launch new programs in my practice. Quite honestly, I've been feeling overwhelmed. It has brought up a certain amount of anxiety that I often feel most acutely in the morning as I wake up to start my day. 

When I sat down to meditate and calm myself, I had the divine inspiration to set up an appointment for therapeutic relaxation (body work).  Of course, when I considered taking time off and spending money on myself, my first thought was, I can't afford that!  But no matter how strong I am, I know that I MUST take time for self-care or I will not have energy to do all the great work I have in store for this year!  So I made the appointment and today I went to get my treatment.

It was fantastic!  I felt so light and relaxed after.  It was worth every single penny! No matter how overwhelming life seems, self-care levels the playing field and makes it possible to deal with any situation.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: Taking time for self-care levels the playing field and makes it possible to deal with any situation.

 

Excitement Makes Perfect

When I was a teenager I wrote “I hate math” all over my math book cover.  My math teacher saw it and told me to change that cover!  He gave me extra math problems as a punishment for every day I kept the cover on my book.

He explained to me that whatever my attitude was when I was thinking about math and doing my homework, that would be the same attitude I would bring to the exams.  How you feel when you practice something is how you will feel when you finally perform it.

Fast-forward to today when I am practicing my first webinar class, all pumped up with energy and dressed to the nines because I want to be confident even though no one can see me!

My sweet moment is finding excitement in practicing; and I practice so much more than I actually perform.  Do you find the joy in practicing whatever it is you do in life?  If you don’t then how can you?

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  How you feel when you practice something is how you will feel when you finally perform it.

Do you Ever Feel Like A Fraud

If I’m honest, sometimes I wrongly think I’m a fraud

Today I'm sharing one of my deepest fears to be exposed as a fraud, a pretender, someone I am not. Have you ever felt that way about part of yourself?

Sometimes I feel that way when I write. I have put on this hat a couple of times a week for the last 14 years. I sit down and pour out my thoughts on paper or computers screen to help others live healthier lives.

I say I'm a fraud because I'm dyslexic and my grammar is terrible. I'm self-conscious about each and every post I write.  If it weren't for friends and family reviewing my work it would probably be a disaster. Writing is a place where I feel vulnerable and insecure.

So why do I torture myself on a weekly basis to write posts, newsletters, articles and 2 books? It’s simple; I have something to say. I have knowledge and advice that has helped people improve their health and live more energetic lives.

This whole writing thing started by accident. 12 years ago I decide to write a cookbook for my patients as a reference guide for them to improve their diets. It was the simplest way to disseminate healthy recipes to them. My friends and family purchased copies too. Boom - all of a sudden I was being labeled an author.  The title stuck and I was being asked to write health articles for websites and magazines. I started living a double life being called a writer - even though I wasn't one.

2 books and over 500 articles later, I still get self-conscious as I sit to write. The difference is that life experience has taught me that I'm am expert at what I do. I have to get over my insecurities to help others. My working with people improves the quality of their lives. I know that and I’m so grateful for it.

I have been given a gift, the gift of sharing important information in a simple way.  I have been put on this planet to share my gift even when it makes me uncomfortable.  So forgive the typos and please keep reading and supporting me by getting the word out!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: We have been put on this plant to share our gifts even when it makes us uncomfortable.  So get to it!

 

Waking up to a pleasant surprise can set the tone for the whole day

This morning I woke up to see a dusting of snow out of the window.  There was just enough snow to cover the trees and the car but not enough to stick to the street.  I think snow is beautiful so it put me into a wonderful mood.  I was singing in the shower and dancing as I got dressed.

It doesn’t really matter the season, taking a few minutes to enjoy the wonder of nature in the morning can always put me in a good mood.  Perhaps it will be that the birds are chirping or the roses are blooming. 

The key is that I set my intention for the day to be happy.  My happiness lasted for the entire day.  We have the power to do this every day.  I don’t always remember to do it but when I do, it makes all the difference!

What can you do first thing in the morning to make you happy for the day!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  We can set the intention for the day

Meditation is social activism

This week I heard a lecture about meditation from a Buddhist nun.  She spoke about the idea of mindfulness in a way that I have never heard before.  She said, “mindfulness without social justice is just navel gazing.”  At first this was very provocative but on second thoughts, it made perfect sense to me.

If you look up the definition of mindfulness it says, “the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.”  This definition is why mindfulness is often used synonymously with stress management.  The definition is adequate but in the Buddhist tradition, mindfulness is part of a deeper philosophy.  Mindfulness is not just a practice.  It is a way of life. Practicing mindfulness means you commit to loving kindness.

In today’s environment of division, hate, and lies media it is easy to see how loving kindness is a stand for social justice.  It is the stand that leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr. or our brothers and sisters at Standing Rock take.

I joke about becoming a social activist because of the current political climate.  Who knew that because I meditate, I already am!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: I joke about becoming a social activist because of the current political climate.  Who knew that because I meditate, I already am!

 

If it isn’t Love

It amazes me that I can remember every word of certain songs from my childhood.  Yesterday I was watching the New Edition story on BET.com.  It is the story of one of my favorite music groups from my teenage years.

As the show opened, they were singing and practicing a routine to Isn’t love.  Not only did I know every word, I knew the dance moves too! 

Picture this: here I am dancing around my living room, singing at the top of my lungs. By the end of the song I was a little out of breath but I was suddenly so happy!  My body was shaking with joy.

Music has a wonderful way to help us get happy for no reason at all.  What are your favorites songs from your childhood?  You know, the ones that make you smile for no reason at all.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: Music has a wonderful way of making us happy for no reason at all.

 

Feelin’ yourself, every once in a while, is sign of growth

Today was my first national webinar!  It was so much easier than I thought it would be.  It went so well.  It was so much fun.

Have you ever noticed that when you are really prepared to do something, it goes so smoothly? This has been true so often in my life, yet I seem to always be amazed it happens. I have decided that today I’m not going be amazed at how smoothly everything went but instead was going be amazed at how talented I am!

It is a good thing to take time to praise yourself for your achievements.  Successful people, high achievers, actually take stock of their successes on a daily basis. 

I want to be successful so I will start taking stock of my successes every day.  It is a way to be kind to myself.  Today felt like an awesome way to start.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: Successful people, high achievers, actually take stock of their successes on a daily basis. 

 

When you were young, did you admire any of your friend’s parents?

I did.  I was fortunate to have some wonderful role models in my friend’s parents.  I was on sports teams between the ages of five and eighteen.  Since I was raised by a single mom with two very busy kids, carpooling was key to getting us both to all of our games. There were many times one of my friend’s parents would give me a ride, or look after me in some way.  I grew up in a great community of people that looked after one another.  I was really appreciative, even as a kid.

So when I saw one of on my friend’s parents today, I was thrilled! It brought back so many memories of how well I was taken care of by her as a child.  It reminded me of how many times over the years I received support, words of praise and guidance for whatever I was going on in my life.

I am grateful to her and all the parents that looked after me over the years.  They helped to shape who I became and am still becoming.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  Admiring people that support and have your back, changes who you are.

Having the courage to say thank you

Since the 2016 elections, I have been thinking about America.  I have been thinking about our values.  I have been thinking about all the issues that came up during the Women’s March 2017. I have been thinking about ways to express the same type of kindness, love and support that I felt during the march.  

As I am riding the metro, DC’s public subway system, on my way to a meeting I get off around the pentagon.  So I see two men in their uniforms walking ahead of me.  All of a sudden I get the great idea to walk up to them and thank them for their service.  All of a sudden I am focused on catching up to them.  I run in front of people to catch up.

When I am finally able to walk in front of them I suddenly realize I don’t have a clue what I am going to say to them.  I turn around to face them and in a very awkward way, interrupted their conversation to blurt out, “Thank you for your service!” and then shyly looked down and away.

To my complete surprise and to theirs too, they stopped their conversation, looked at me and said thank you for stopping us and we so appreciate your thanks.  Have a great weekend!

I felt so much kindness towards them.  It made me feel so good.  I’m not sure who benefitted more - me or them.  That is a sweet moment for sure!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  When you are kind everyone benefits.  I’m not sure who benefited more - me or them

Loving to Give - A financial Story

I love to tithe!  I never thought I would ever say that I love to give away my money, at least until I was a millionaire.  It happened with a change of attitude about giving.

Today I heard a talk about how tithing changed someone’s life for the better.  It reminded me to be joyful every single time I tithe!

Tithing is the process of giving 10% of your salary to an organization that feeds your spirit.  The organization that people normally tithe to is their church.  In 2008, I took a class at my church and for the first time, I really understood that tithing always affirms the idea that you are giving out of a sense of fullness, your thoughts and feeling of overflow.

Tithing is based on that faith that we will always have what we need when we need it.  What we need doesn’t have to show up as only money.  It can show up as help or food or resources. Tithing taught me to change my perspective about abundance.  I learned how to look at abundance in a holistic way.

My sweet moment was remembering to have joy when tithing because each time I do it, I am asking for more abundance.

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: Remember to have joy when tithing because each time I do I am affirming more abundance.

Magic socks, magic healing!

I don't like being sick. I am usually of the mindset that I just have too much to do to be sick, even for a couple of days. So because of that I have learned to notice when my throat gets scratchy because I know I'm on my way to getting taken down by a cold or flu.

So I have learned when I am getting sick to treat myself with love and care. I've found naturopathic treatments that make me feel good while I'm doing them and really make me feel better in the morning.

With that knowledge, I decided to combat my cold with one of my favorite treatments, a hot bath followed by magic socks. These are simple non-medication treatments that heal my whole body.

My sweet moment came from knowing and believing that my medicine really does heal my body.

PS I did feel better in the morning!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable: I love using natural medicine treatments to heal my whole body.  So easy and so fun!

 

 

Listening to your intuition gives you the greatest gifts – always!

Yesterday I was able to attend the Women’s March in DC.  It was a wonderful and exhausting experience. By the time I got home I was feeling that I didn't want to be around more crowds of people on Sunday so I was going to skip church.

When I woke this morning I still loved the idea of solitude but for some reason I felt drawn to go to church.   So I decided to surrender and go to church after my morning meditation.

As I drove up to my normal parking spot for church I noticed that all of the spots where I normally park were full.  In fact I drove around for 15 minutes before I found a place to park.   I started to wonder whether I made the right choice to come to church after all.  But once I finally got inside the building the mystery was solved.

We had a special guest speaker, Marianne Williamson, and the church was packed.  Marianne is an American spiritual teacher, author and lecturer.  I have followed her teachings and writing for the last 20 years.  It was an amazing opportunity to hear her motivational message today.

So my sweet moment came from listening to my intuition instead of listening to my logical mind.  It seems that whenever I quiet down enough to listen to my intuition, good things happen. 

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae

Tweetable:  whenever I quiet down enough to listen to my intuition, good things happen!