Do you want to be right or do you want to be loved?

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Relationships can be the source of great joy or heart-break.  Would you agree?  This week I wanted to spend a little time speaking about how you can improve the state of your relationships by asking a simple question whenever you notice the conversation is heading into a place of disharmony or argument.

It is do you want to be right or do you want to be happy (loved)?

As we continue this month’s theme of A Loving Heart creates the sweetest life.  I want to turn to relationships this week.  Sometime create stress and tension in our selves by the way we communicate with other.  You can start detoxing your life by reframing how you have conversations with the people in your life, your family, co-workers, friends and acquaintances.

One of the best lessons I have ever learned was to make the choice between wanting to be right or wanting to be happy in conversations with others.

It is a simple concept, not always so easy to incorporate into actual conversations but with practice it is a life changing idea.

Here is how this works.  When you get into a conversation with someone and you notice that you are starting to get frustrated or angry about the direction of the conversation stop, take a breath and decide is this conversation worth you getting stressed out about?  Most of the time it is not.   Then you have a choice do you want to be right or happy (or keep the loving space flowing through you).  If you want to stay happy then let the other person have their opinion.  You can have your opinion they don’t have to agree.

Yesterday I was talking to one of my good friends who is an awesome doctor. She and I were talking about a funeral that she was debating whether to attend out of state.  She was mad that her siblings and dad were not planning to attend. She was really pissed at them.

I listened to the entire story and felt like her reasons for going would cause more stress than comfort and I suggested that she not go.  She got upset at me for offering an opinion.  Here is my choice, I could get mad at her at her tone and yelled at her or I could love her and back out of the conversation.  

Guess what I chose.  I let her continue complain and yell, but it was not at me, it was at her family.  It’s a week later and she decided not to go, for many of the reasons I offered.  

There you go! It can be that simple.

Try it!

Loving relationships are the sweetest part of a sweet life!

To Your One Sweet Life,

Dr. Dae